When the mental health team launched their book club, they were not prepared for the huge response and had to purchase more books to keep up with the demand. In fact, Sue Devlin, Mental Health Clinical Supervisor said she had to order more books three times to keep up with the interest.
Their secret weapon? The transformative bestseller, "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. “We chose the book because it was written over 40 years ago and offers sound parenting practices that have stood the test of time. Many of the parenting books out there right now are built on these principles. It was written as a series of parenting sessions and speaks about shifts in how we approach parenting and our children. The book provides ideas around small changes that can have a profound impact on how our children view themselves. Although it’s an older book, the strategies and things talked about in the book still work”, says Sue Devlin.
What began as a humble gathering of a handful of parents has blossomed into a thriving, engaged community that met monthly to discuss the book's practical techniques and share personal triumphs chapter by chapter. The book club has become a beacon of support and inspiration for parents navigating the challenging world of child-rearing.
Matthew Craven, a parent of five, said he really enjoyed the book. “It introduced some alternative parenting techniques and a different way to praise and talk to your children. It also opened lines of communication within the family and was a great way to connect with other parents and see different parenting styles.”
Led by Natasha Tsevende, Mental Health Worker in Kenora, and Jillian Williams, Student Wellbeing Coach in Red Lake, the club quickly gained popularity due to its laid-back and welcoming atmosphere. “We offered free childcare and meals and that really eliminated barriers for busy parents to be able to attend the club”, said Sue.
"We started this book club as a way to connect with other parents who were facing similar challenges," Natasha explained. "Little did we know that it would have such a profound impact on our lives and the lives of our students and parents. At the best of times, parenting is hard! We wanted to offer a space where parents could learn together. When meeting with parents we heard lots of questions around how to support their child, and parents were left wondering if they have it right. We all have concerns about our children and there is a desire to support them in the best possible way. A Book Club was a way to offer support and connection to busy parents. It was an opportunity to gather in real life and learn from the book and each other. It is always our goal to listen to the needs of our KCDSB families and respond as well as we can."
The book, which offers practical strategies and compassionate insights into the art of effective communication, has struck a chord with parents of all backgrounds. Its conversational tone and relatable anecdotes have made it accessible to parents at various stages of their parenting journey.
Matthew said that there was a comfort level that grew within the group. “Once the dialogue in the group started moving, and we got into the book, it was nice to see all the familiar faces each month. People felt more comfortable and started opening up and sharing about their families and their households. It was nice to see the comfort within the group grow. It was also a nice opportunity for our children to run around and play. Plus, the food was good. It was a good experience.”
The club's success is not only attributed to the book itself but also to the unwavering support and camaraderie fostered among its members. “This was a collaborative effort between the mental health team but also our families”, said Natasha. “Our families came prepared, shared examples, and set the tone for a warm, welcoming, and inclusive space for all. We also learned alongside our parents. After all, parents are the experts in their child’s life.”
"The success of this book club is a testament to the power of communication," said Sue Devlin. "When parents learn to listen empathetically and respond thoughtfully, it creates a nurturing environment that can positively shape a child's development."
Parents are asking and are eagerly awaiting the reveal of the next Book Club Title for the 2023 – 2024 School Year. The wait is almost over. We can tell you that the Mental Health Team is deep in discussions and will be unveiling the next captivating read very soon. Watch for more information and get ready to embark on a new literary journey to ignite discussions and fuel imagination.